Loving Kindness Meditation

By Heather Stang, MA, C-IAYT

Updated: April 19, 2020

Posted: November 16, 2010

Metta, the meditative practice of loving-kindness, is not only a way to send well wishes to those you care about, but can support you in being compassionate to those in your life that you find difficult, or even downright hostile.

Metta Prayer of Loving Kindness

May you be happy, as I wish to be happy.
May you know peace, as I wish to know peace.
May you be free from suffering, as I wish to be free from suffering.

First, find yourself in a comfortable seated position, or practice Metta while walking mindfully. Then, using the words above, visualize and send well wishes to the following people in this order:

1. To someone you respect and love: “May you be happy, as I wish to be happy…..”
2. To Yourself: “May I be happy…”
3. To others in your life you love: “May you all be happy, as I wish to be happy…..”
4. To a neutral person (someone you do not have an opinion about): “May you be happy, as I wish to be happy…..”
5. To a difficult or hostile person: “May you be happy, as I wish to be happy…..”
6. To all beings: “May all beings be happy, as I wish to be happy…..”

Take time to allow the image of yourself or the other person to come into your mind before repeating the words. Focus and repeat the refrain as often as you wish.

When you are finished, reflect on the effects Metta practice has had. Notice how you move through the rest of your day, how you interact with those close to you as well as strangers. This can be a powerful exercise, and is said to have profound health and wellness benefits, not to mention that people will want to be around you without even knowing why!

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Heather Stang, MA, C-IAYT

About the author

Heather Stang, M.A. is the author of Mindfulness & Grief. She holds a Masters degree in Thanatology (Death, Dying, and Bereavement) from Hood College in Maryland, and is a certified Yoga Therapist. She is on the Advisory Board for the highly regarded military family survivor organization Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS) and is a faculty member of the Portland Institute of Loss & Transition, founded by Dr. Robert A. Neimeyer. She is also the host of the Mindfulness & Grief Podcast, founder of the Mindfulness & Grief Institute and the Frederick Meditation Center in Maryland.

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