Guided Self-Inquiry Meditation for Grief

By Heather Stang, MA, C-IAYT

Updated: April 19, 2020

Posted: September 20, 2016

This Guided Self-Inquiry Meditation for Grief accompanies the "Tending the Garden of Grief" article written by Heather Stang for the Fall 2016 edition of the TAPS Magazine. TAPS is a wonderful, supportive organization for U.S. military survivors.  It is in their honor that I offer this guided meditation as both an audio and as a meditation script.

The Practice: Guided Self-Inquiry Meditation for Grief

Set aside 10 to 20 minutes where you won’t be disturbed and your environment is relatively quiet. Read through these instructions a few times before you practice, or stream/download the guided meditation below.

Close your eyes or softly gaze on a point in front of you.

Reflect on your personal intention for your meditation practice today. What do you hope to receive from this practice? Is it to become more peaceful? Cultivate self-compassion? Reset your anxious mind?

Locate the place in your body where you feel your breath rising and falling, or where you feel it moving in and out.

Exaggerate the next five rounds of breath so that it is bigger and more expansive.

Notice the places where your breath moves with ease as well as the places where it feels stuck or tight. Just notice sensation–no need to change a thing.

Return your breath to a natural rhythm, focusing on your attention on your exhales for the next 5 to 15 minutes. Each time you get distracted, or realize you haven’t been paying attention to your breath, choose to refocus your attention on your next exhale. It is the practice of refocusing that cultivates a calm and steady mind.

Notice any impulse you have to change your experience, and consider the possibility of simply letting things be just as they are for now.

Spend the last 5 minutes of this practice responding to the following self-inquiry questions in your journal:

  1.  What did you learn about yourself during your meditation practice?
  2. How does it relate to your grief experience? To the rest of your life?
  3. Now that you know what you know, is there anything you want to change? To nurture? To be more aware of?

Spend the rest of the day being kind to yourself.

Heather Stang, MA, C-IAYT

About the author

Heather Stang, M.A. is the author of Mindfulness & Grief and the guided journal, From Grief To Peace. She is the creator of the Mindfulness & Grief System that is featured in the Handbook of Grief Therapies (2023) and is the founder of Awaken, a mindfulness-based online grief support group. Heather also hosts the Mindfulness & Grief Podcast, and offers mindfulness-based grief support online through her organization, the Mindfulness & Grief Institute. She holds a Masters degree in Thanatology (Death, Dying, and Bereavement) from Hood College in Maryland, and is a certified Yoga Therapist. She currently lives in Falling Waters, WV.

You might also like

Get compassionate live online grief support with author Heather Stang

Meditation | Journaling | Self-care | Sharing