Grief is a natural reaction to the death of someone we love. I want to stress the word natural because it is important to know that grief itself is not a problem – it is not pathological. It hurts, yes, but this is only because you were capable of love.


While grief is like a roller coaster, and rarely feels “normal,” most of us have the natural capacity to make it to the other side. Along the journey we will feel a myriad of uncomfortable, intrusive and most of all unwelcome sensations. The pain we feel as a result of losing someone we love seems unfair, but it is natural, and while the loss itself is permanent, the intensity of pain will subside.