Coping with Grief: A Mindfulness Approach

Coping with grief when your loved one has died may seem like an impossible task. Few words bring comfort, and there is no quick fix for a broken heart. In addition to overwhelming sadness, many of us feel stuck and unsure of how to proceed with life after loss.

There is no right or wrong way to cope with grief—as long as you are not causing yourself harm. It is a natural process that all of us experience in our own way. The 5 Stages of grief have long been disproved, and time is not what heals grief. It is, in fact, what you do with your time that matters.

Where do you begin?

It is normal to feel disoriented, and many of us wonder if we are coping with grief in the “right” way. Grief is like an umbrella—beneath it you will find physical, emotional, spiritual, and social elements—to name a few. You may find it less overwhelming to break down the concept of “coping with grief” into a few manageable components:

The physical body is usually the best place to start dealing with grief, as a cared-for body can help calm a restless, anxious mind. Get started >>

Mindfulness & Grief Book Kudos

Heather Stang offers those who are grieving a wise and practical guide. The stories, teachings and meditations in this book will help you find your own inner strength and awakening heart in the midst of great loss.

Tara Brach, Ph.D.  Author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge

 

Intellectually we know we must release that which dies.  But how?  Mindfulness and Grief can accompany you in your grieving, providing wise and compassionate guidance that will support you in this profound and intimate process of letting go.

Jonathan Foust Former President, Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health

 

Heather Stang offers considerable hope for those who might be lost to the process of grief.  Not only does she offer hope - she offers ways to be with grief that are effective and that transform it at the same time.  Embracing the moment and being present to what is happening rather than despairing in it are just one small but powerful aspect.  I highly recommend this book.

Michael Lee, M.A. Founder, Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy

Welcome From Heather Stang, Author of Mindfulness & Grief

Heather StangOne of my favorite quotes during tough times comes from the sufi tradition:

When the heart grieves over what it has lost, the spirit rejoices over what it has left.

During our darkest days and nights, we may feel like spiritual paupers, but there is a part of us that is greater than our suffering. This part is able to gently embrace the pain of loss while at the same time recognizing the preciousness of love. To riff on a popular theme: No love, no loss.  Know love, know loss.

Mindfulness-based techniques can help you cope with grief by tending to your physical, emotional, social, and spiritual needs. Reaching out for professional help is also an option. Many communities offer grief support groups, and you can find a grief professional through the Association of Death Education and Counseling.

I hope you find the meditations on this site helpful. If you do, please share your story with me on facebook, twitter or email.

With lovingkindness,
Heather Stang
Mindfulness Speaker, Thanatologist
& Member of the Grief Club